Sam Smith: What’s behind I’m Not Here to Make Friends backlash – Capital Radio Malawi
9 February, 2025

Sam Smith: What’s behind I’m Not Here to Make Friends backlash

When someone calls their new track I’m Not Here to Make Friends, they’re probably expecting a reaction.

And with their latest video, Sam Smith has certainly caused a bit of stir.

If you haven’t watched it, the singer spends most of it wearing a corset and nipple tassels while performing some spicy moves with backing dancers.

Some people think the video is “oversexualised” and want it to come with a warning. Others think Sam is a victim of double standards.

The video lands

The video for I’m Not Here to Make Friends starts with Sam, wearing an enormous pink coat, arriving at a remote castle by helicopter.

Once inside, dancers and drag queens surround the singer for a series of routines.

One scene in particular has upset some people – it shows Sam in that corset and nipple tassel look, posing suggestively while being showered with jets of water.

When the video was released it – predictably – took Youtube by storm, flying to the top of its trending chart,

It wasn’t long before Sam was trending on Twitter too, with a lot of posts calling the video “vulgar” and saying it was inappropriate for younger viewers.

Youtube’s restricted mode blocks the video. But fans say it’s no worse than others released by artists, many of them female, containing suggestive imagery.

Songs like Anaconda by Nicki Minaj, S&M by Rihanna or even Call On Me by Eric Prydz all capitalise on it.

Those who think Sam has been singled out have a theory.

In 2019, the singer came out as non-binary and asked to be described with they/them pronouns. Their new album, Gloria, fully embraces LGBT culture.

“If a female artist had done that exact same video, worn the exact same outfits, no one would bat an eyelid,” says drag queen Pixie Polite.

“I think the outcry just smacks of this sort of homophobia, queer phobia and transphobia.”

This isn’t the first time an artist has reflected their LGBT identity in their work.

Twenty-five years ago, George Michael was arrested by an undercover policeman in Los Angeles.

He caught the British singer performing a sex act in a public toilet and arrested him for cottaging.

George, who had not revealed his sexuality before this, came back with the music video for his song Outside – which featured dancers simulating sex in public and a lot of leather.

And before that, there was Relax by Frankie Goes to Hollywood, released in 1983.

The band had to make two videos for the song, as the first was set in a gay, S&M-themed nightclub and allegedly banned from TV.

And the BBC refused to play the song after one of it top DJs at the time, Mike Read, branded it “obscene”.

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